I imagine that Father’s Day is an excruciating day for alienated fathers, just as Mother’s Day is for alienated moms. Today, my heart is with you, all of you fathers who cannot be with your beloved children.
I have seen your pain. I saw you in Boston and New York and on the pages of your blogs and in the messages you put out for your children, hoping that they will read them. I saw the tears in your eyes and felt the love in your heart.
You only want the chance to love them. How could anyone believe you are unworthy of this? It makes no sense. I know you are treated as the disease, the outcast, the dangerous one. And I know that is a lie- the most destructive lie that can be told to a child.
This pathogen is the disease, the virus, the destructive force. Your child has been conditioned to confuse the two. Your child treats you as the disease to be avoided, the “bad parent”, the dangerous entity . And many of those around your child, influenced by the alienator, has fallen into that trap as well (more on this in my upcoming podcast).
But love is on your side, and you are not alone. So many of us understand your heart. We hear you. We see you. And we are moving forward with you.
I understand all too well the vicious pathogen that has taken your children from you. Your children are victims too, believe me.
Keep loving them from afar. On some unconscious level, they will feel this. And someday, they may come back to you. The truth is a powerful thing. Don’t ever give up.
Awareness and education about the pathogen of “parental alienation’ is spreading far and wide. There is more hope than ever before for aliented children and their parents to be reunited!
Statistically speaking, as an adult alienated child, I should be a drug addict, or alienated from my own children, or a depressed alcoholic, or at the very least have gone through a traumatic divorce of my own. But none of those scenarios are true for me. Any of them could have been and I can look back on my teen years and young adulthood and recognize those pivotal moments when I could have jumped off a cliff, metaphorically speaking, but something saved me. What if there was a reason I was given the strength to begin to heal and remember, and know the truth? What if I knew the truth all along, and that is what saved me?
I am one of the lucky ones and that is not lost on me. I refuse to waste this. I know exactly how parental alienation happened to me and happens every day all over the world, and I have no good reason whatsoever to stay silent. I have every good reason to speak up.
So Happy Father’s Day to the father’s who simply want to love their own children and are not able to share that love freely. Many of us see you and we are on your side! Together, we can move mountains. Stay strong. Be healthy. We have work to do.